It is amazing to me that people have given D. Wade and Gabrielle Union a hard time for doing what parents should do. How many times do (black men in particular) get raked over the coals for not being present for their children? How many times do stepmoms have to be cast in the shadows of “wicked”? So D. Wade and Gabrielle step out of the type cast and bravely share their family only to be criticized? How much more ridiculous is it going to get?
The Wade’s owed nobody an explanation about how they conceived their baby, but they shared it with the world. Probably believing that it would help somebody who struggles with fertility issues. Probably wanting to spread some hope for those who need to believe and find other alternatives. How dare they!! Furthermore, who the HELL do they think they are to love on their gay child too? They are doing too much!! I mean this would only serve to kill all the nonsense about wicked stepmoms and absent fathers…right? To think they would have the audacity to believe (two times now)–that sharing or showing unfailing love and support for their children would help someone who might be struggling is just utterly ignorant–right? What would Jesus think?
We (his adult children) are arrogant, judgmental and hypocritical all day everyday–yet the bible “claims” that Jesus gets over it daily. He apparently has the capacity to ignore our shit and continue rescue us from crap we created. To guarantee us a place at the table and do it in front of our haters. He will never leave or forsake us? Wow! I am pretty sure that phrase is used at least twice in the bible (at least).
People! Go find something else to do. Real parents don’t ask for a refund. They live up to the task that God gave them. Just as he does for us daily. The Wade’s chose to love their child enough to let her/him find his/her own path. The child with God’s help will ultimately decide how to live out life. Their job (as parents) is to support the journey. Kids don’t belong to us–they belong to God. He makes them and assigns them to us for safe keeping. I applaud them both for understanding their assignment. The real walk with God is when you have to do something even when you don’t understand what it’s about (or even agree). Wade has chosen to not let the macho athletic image (that others have in their minds) keep him from being present. That is what a REAL LOVING father does! Union has decided to be present for this kid as a co-parent. That is what PARENTS do. I applaud them both for standing in the gap as good examples for hope, humanity and love on several avenues.